When people learn that I’m a Hypnotherapist, one of the first questions they ask me is “Have you ever HYPNOTISED your own children”? And usually, they’ll whisper it behind their hands.
I generally give some stock answer that probably only answers half the question and don’t go into too many details. But today, I’m going to come clean. I ADMIT IT! In the past, I have HYPNOTISED my kids.
Now…… before you jump up in horror wondering if it’s illegal – or at the very least immoral, let me share something else with you.
YOU have HYPNOTISED your kids too!
Not once, or twice – or every now and then – but each and every day! Your words are constantly being absorbed by your child’s subconscious mind and have a profound effect on their thinking, their feeling and their behaviour. In much the same way that TV adverts brainwash people into buying a certain brand of tea. And once a message has been absorbed by our subconscious minds, it’s pretty much stuck there for good – which is why most of us will buy the same brand of tea that our parents always bought.
As a parent, you literally have so much power over your child’s behaviour.
But, if it’s so easy to hypnotise someone into doing something – even a chimp on a TV advert can do it – how come we feel so powerless when it comes to controlling our children’s behaviour? After all, it should be simple – shouldn’t it?
Well yes, it should be – but most of us seem to tie ourselves up in knots and struggle to get our message across. But, as I know only too well, with just a little bit of inside knowledge about the “Language of Persuasion”, life can become a whole lot easier.
Here’s a little 3 STEP TIP for you test out at home:
STEP 1: Always tell your child what you want them to do rather than what you don’t want them to.
“Don’t leave your shoes by the front door for everyone to trip over” becomes “Let’s see if we can keep the hallway nice and clear by putting shoes in the cupboard”.
STEP 2: Insert a question at the end of the request to get an agreement.
“Don’t leave your shoes by the front door for everyone to trip over” becomes “Let’s see if we can keep the hallway nice and clear by putting shoes in the cupboard. It will be easier to walk through to the kitchen, won’t it?
STEP 3: Thank your child for doing what it is that you’ve asked them to do, even if they haven’t started doing it yet. Hot on the heels of asking a question that elicits a ‘yes’ response, you’ll ‘wrong-foot’ your child into following your instructions. And remember, all children love receiving praise and feeling good.
“Don’t leave your shoes by the front door for everyone to trip over!” becomes “Let’s see if we can keep the hallway nice and clear by putting shoes in the cupboard. It will be easier to walk through to the kitchen,won’t it? (PAUSE) Thank you – it’s good to see you being so helpful”
Start right now and see how easy it can be to get your child to change. Use this pattern everyday so it becomes an automatic habit.